Things You Should Never Say/Text to Your Ex

I Miss You

Girl, you don’t miss him! He hurt you. He played you. He did something bad. There’s a reason you guys broke up. Don’t tell him that you miss him because you don’t! Once you tell him you miss him, his ego will rise and he’s going to think that you’re vulnerable and that he has you wrapped around his finger. He’s going to think that he is the coolest guy in the planet and he’s going to use that to his advantage. Most likely, he’ll tell you that he misses you too, but don’t fall for that! He may truly miss you, but there’s a reason you guys broke and he might do the same thing again. Or he could be lying to you and he doesn't really miss you. He probably just wants to make you believe that he does so that he can feel better about himself.

How To Get Over Your Ex?

Sorry to break it to you, but it’s over. The relationship has ended. You two are no longer together. You can’t kiss him anymore. You can’t hug him anymore. And you need to accept it. The first step to moving on is to accept that it’s over. You’ve got to understand that you can’t talk to him anymore. You can’t hang out with him anymore. You can’t check up on his social media accounts anymore. You’ve got to delete those old messages. Delete your pictures together. Delete his number. It’s over. Accept it. The hurt will be over soon. You can do it!  

How to Deal With Selfish Lover?

“It was because all we wanted was each other's constant love and attention and for no one else to receive that love and attention, which is a selfish and difficult place to be in a relationship. We were emotionally retarded, and that was the best we could do at the time.” 

― Anthony Kiedis, Scar Tissue

Occasionally, you are “that” lover. Then there are times when your partner becomes “that” lover. But when being erotically egocentric isn’t the exception to the rule, having a selfish lover can be a bit of a problem.

Despite the adage that “to give is to receive,” supporting only one person’s wanton welfare gets really old really fast.

At first, it’s hard to fault a lover for being self-consumed during sex. After all, it’s a bit of a compliment — a sign that he or she must be having a really good time. It’s sweet ... until you realize that you’re the one always left hanging. With your lover lost to the pleasuring, you’re getting zero help in becoming sexually satiated as well.

Selfishness happens. But when it’s habit, how do you handle this lover?

How to Deal with Racist People

Everyday racism has to be tackled by ordinary people.—Adele Horin, Sydney Morning Herald

Growing up in a society in which the face of racial discrimination is often masked and ignored by social media, it is difficult to see where and how we still need to change. Some may argue that we do not need to change, that racism does not exist today.

Sure there are the fading generations of racists that still dwell within small areas of our nation, but we, as a majority, have grown and evolved beyond the racist conventions that polluted our society in the past. People are no longer judged based on the color of their skin or their ethnic background. As Martin Luther King, Jr. had hoped, people are now judged by the content of their character. Sadly, this perspective is not yet a reality.

Making Sex Video: The Pleasure and Disorder

“If you want to be famous, just make a sex tape.” - Demi Lovato

Like Kim Kardashian, Miley Cyrus, Paris Hilton and many more celebrities are once involved in sex videos controversy. However, not only Hollywood personalities and other entertainers engage in the practice, but also sports figures and politicians even for normal people. Being part of a modern couple that doesn't subscribe to traditional sexual mores, you've even talk about it with your partner. Making sex video may be a great idea, but it's a very fragile art and not one to be leaped into lightly.

When done right, videotaping yourselves (may) bring you closer together as a couple. However, there are several pitfalls that must be head off to guarantee that your video is a make rather than break moment for your relationship.

I have quoted these theory of Resty S.Odon's blog about “Why do people make sex videos?”  post stating that;

• To have a souvenir of love and sex conquest, in a perverse sense of personal achievement/fulfillment?
  
• To have something titillating to watch over and over again when bored?
• To imitate in real life what they often watch online, porn, thinking carefully staged porn portrayal to be real and thus normal?
  
• To have a handy evidence in the future just in case the lover denies the relationship/what happened?
  
• To have a means to get back at the lover someday by blackmail in case she opts out/drops him for another?
  
• Because having a sex video is cool nowadays, not something sick; after all, Hollywood stars do it all the time?
  
• Because sex and women have become dirt-cheap?
  
• Because men unknowingly hate women so much they would want to use them then embarrass them then discard them like used condoms?
  
• To demonstrate one's sex prowess? To earn bragging rights or something to boast to friends over a few drinks?
• All of the above?

To put my two cents here, I’d like to add a theory as an “EGO” argument for why your man wants to make a sex video . I think this has to be the most plausible reason for dude’s making sex tapes. I mean, I get how making a video can be sexy. You get to act like porn stars. Pretending you’re being filmed or watched adds a naughty, exhibitionist rush to what’s basically a role playing game.

But sometimes I can’t help but think that there are men out there who thinks of sex video as a trophy. Who knows? They watch them when their self-esteem is low? Or maybe the plan is to be able to watch themselves in their prime, nailing hot tight bodies when they are old.

In MedpageToday.com's website, Michele R. Berman MD the author of “What Were Theythinking? Why People Make Sex Tapes”, she stated these disorder:

Exhibitionistic Disorder (DSM-5, proposed)

A. Over a period of at least six months, recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors involving the exposure of one's genitals to an unsuspecting stranger.

B. The person is distressed or impaired by these attractions, or has sought sexual stimulation from exposing the genitals to three or more unsuspecting strangers on separate occasions.

Voyeuristic Disorder (DSM-5, proposed)

A. Over a period of at least six months, recurrent and intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors involving the observing of an unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity.

B. The person is distressed or impaired by these attractions, or has sought sexual stimulation from observing three or more unsuspecting persons who are naked, disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity on separate occasions.

Both exhibitionism and voyeurism are paraphilic disorders (others include fetishism, sadomasochism, transvestism, frotteurism and pedophilia). Pathologic narcissism falls into an entirely different category of mental illnesses referred to as personality disorders which also include paranoid, antisocial, borderline and obsessive-compulsive disorders. Narcissistic personality disorder and bullying will be the subjects of a future story.

When making sex videos...

It may be tempting to let out your inner exhibitionist, think over this consequences:

• Your boss will know what your O face looks like.
  
• Thanks to Google and YouTube – your next generation will be able to see that.
• When you're in bed with a new guy or babe, you'll always wonder if he's grabbing your boobs and thinking, "Hey! These looked a lot bigger on my phone!"

Get an App!!

Yes, an app! There's an app for making sex video where you can create, share, compete and of course protect your sex videos/sex tapes using IntiMate app;


Features:

• Shoot tapes or even pictures directly IntiMate app.
• It has “DELETE FOR EVER”, the sex tapes are only stored n their IntiMate system and cannot be copied or shared without your permission.
• It has “SHARE from STRANGERS” where you can screen all social media sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, Email, your phone or even geographical areas. Your sex tape remains “INVISIBLE” to anyone connected less than 3 degrees to you.
• It has also a “PROTECT” option wherein IntiMate will encrypt with password only to you, so whenever someone will rob your phone, SD card, or even your computer/laptop, they can never access it because password is always requested to view it.
• It has “Share Ownership” wherein your sex videos owned by you and your partner, if you deleter your partner deletes the tape, one can't access it anymore.
• (I find it funny) but, intiMate app has “CHALLENGES” option wherein you can compete with other couples or team and even vote for the best sex videos. (Wow!!)

Download now!

Do it for Fun and not for Blackmail!


It should go without saying that making a sex video should only proceed with the permission of both partners.

With a little knowledge and preparation, you can be sure that your first sex video won't be your last.

Top 10 Signs That He’s Just Not That Into You

Have you recently met a guy and have been pondering whether or not he’s into you? Telling if a guy is actually into you is much easier than most women think. Often time’s women let their own personal feelings get in the way of their thinking and later realize that they have been wasting time with a guy that doesn’t actually like them.

Regardless of age, or level of dating experience, reading men’s interest in you can be a struggle. Many men prefer to stay mysterious, go for privacy in all areas of their lives until they are ready to make a serious commitment. Lucky you if he will tell you his purposes up front. But for most men, grasping on to their subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues can be an easier way to get their message and avoid unnecessary heartbreak.

Self-Love is Good: Surprsingly Health Benefits of Masturbation

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Oral Sex: A Down There Disease Risks

After Michael Douglas’ interview of his throat cancer revelation - diagnosed with cancer 3 years ago, was quoted as telling The Guardian newspaper his strain of cancer had been caused by HPV (human papillomavirus). Although the biggest risk factors for throat cancer are smoking and drinking heavily.

However, he was also right that HPV - which can be transmitted by oral sex - also poses a risk. Since oral sex is a pleasure and a healthy part of relationship. But there are some things that many people don't know about oral sex. Here are the facts that might surprise you.

What is Oral Sex?

Oral sex involves giving or receiving oral stimulation (i.e., sucking or licking) to the penis, the vagina, and/or the anus.

• Fellatio - is the technical term used to describe oral contact with the penis.
• Cunnilingus - is the technical term which describes oral contact with the vagina.
• Anilingus - (also known as “rimming”) refers to oral-anal contact.

Studies indicate that oral sex is commonly practiced by sexually active male-female and same-gender couples of various ages, including adolescents. Although there are only limited national data about how often adolescents engage in oral sex, some data suggest that many adolescents who engage in oral sex do not consider it to be “sex;” therefore they may use oral sex as an option to experience sex while still, in their minds, remaining abstinent.

Moreover, many consider oral sex to be a safe or no-risk sexual practice. In a national survey of teens conducted for The Kaiser Family Foundation, 26% of sexually active 15- to 17-year-olds surveyed responded that one “cannot become infected with HIV by having unprotected oral sex,” and an additional 15% didn’t know whether or not one could become infected in that manner.

Does oral sex really linked to throat cancer?

It's not oral sex, per se, that causes cancer, but the human papillomavirus (HPV), which can be passed from person to person during sex, including oral sex.

What are the risks of HPV?

• Human papillomavirus is an infection that causes genital warts. In England, they are the second most common type of sexually transmitted infection after chlamydia.

• In most cases, genital HPV infections cause no real symptoms and clear up by themselves without causing any problems.

• HPV comes in more than 100 different strains and some can trigger cancers.

• Most cases of genital warts are caused by 'low-risk' HPV types 6 and 11, meaning they do not pose a significant cancer risk.

• High-risk types include HPV 16 and 18 which can cause cancer of the cervix in women.

• High-risk HPV infections are also associated with cancer of the penis, vulva, vagina, anus, mouth and throat.

• Other types of HPV can cause visible warts and verrucas, such as those commonly seen on the hands and feet.

• Although HPV is implicated in some throat cancers, smoking and alcohol are far more common risk factors.

How is HPV spread?

• Genital warts can be spread during vaginal or anal sex, and by sharing sex toys. However, you do not need to have penetrative sex to pass the infection on because HPV is spread by skin-to-skin contact.

• HPV infection can also be spread through oral sex.

• It can take up to one year for warts to develop after infection with HPV. Therefore, if you are in a relationship and you get genital warts, it does not necessarily mean your partner has been having sex with other people.

• HPV is most likely to be transmitted to others when warts are present, but it is still possible to pass the virus on before the warts have developed and after they have disappeared.

• Condoms do not provide complete protection because it is possible for the skin around the genital area (not covered by the condom) to become infected.

How do you know that you have genital warts?

Some infected people will show no signs, while others will have visible warts.

In women, warts occur on the inside and outside of the vagina, on the cervix (neck of the womb) or around the anus. In men, genital warts may occur on the tip or shaft of the penis, or around the anus.

Other down there diseases

Several sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, and viral hepatitis can be passed on through oral sex.

"Oral sex is not safe sex," says Terri Warren, RN, owner of Westover Heights Clinic in Portland, Ore., a private clinic specializing in STDs. "It's safer sex, but it's definitely not safe sex.”

The risks depend on a lot of different things, including how many sexual partners you have, your gender, and what particular oral sex acts you engage in.

Using barrier protection can reduce the risk of getting any disease. A barrier can be a condom covering the penis, or a plastic or latex "dental dam" placed over the vulva or anus. Instead of a prepackaged dental dam, a condom cut open to make a sheet is also an acceptable barrier.

Remember you can only pick up human papillomavirus (HPV) from someone who has one. However, it is not always easy to know whether you have an HPV or not. Most cases are either symptomless or have symptoms which are mild and go unnoticed. Often the only way of finding out whether we have HPV is by having a checkup and the relevant tests.

Condoms for Women: Safe or Shame?

Yes, you read it right, a female condom. Although the U.S. Food and Drug Administration approved female condoms in 1993, they haven't just been embraced. While the proper use of a male condom is frequently demonstrated using a banana, health workers show how to use female condom using a vagina model or a hand.

It has flexible rings at each end. Just before vaginal intercourse, it is inserted deep into the vagina. The ring at the closed end holds the pouch in the vagina. The ring at the open end stays outside the vaginal opening during intercourse. And during anal intercourse, it is inserted into the anus.

By covering the inside of the vagina or anus and keeping semen and pre-cum out, condoms reduce the risk of sexually transmitted infections.

How Safe Are Female Condoms?

Almost everyone can use female condoms safely. Actually, female condoms can be used by just about any woman who can use a tampon. They are also safe to use during anal sex.

How to use female condom

• Put spermicide or lubricant on the outside of the closed end.
• Find a comfortable position. You can stand with one foot on a chair, sit on the edge of a chair, lie down, or squat.
• Squeeze together the sides of the inner ring at the closed end of the condom and insert it into the vagina like a tampon.
• Push the inner ring into the vagina as far as it can go — until it reaches the cervix.
• Pull out your finger and let the outer ring hang about an inch outside the vagina.
• If you want to use the female condom for anal intercourse, follow above instructions for inserting it into the anus.
• During vaginal intercourse, it is normal for the female condom to move side to side. Stop intercourse if the penis slips between the condom and the walls of the vagina or if the outer ring is pushed into the vagina. As long as your partner has not yet ejaculated, you can gently remove the condom from the vagina, add extra spermicide or lubricant, and insert it once again.

If your partner has ejaculated outside the female condom into your vagina, you may want to consider using emergency contraception (morning after pill). Emergency contraception can prevent pregnancy if started up to five days after unprotected intercourse. The sooner you start it, the better it will work.

• To remove the female condom
• Squeeze and twist the outer ring to keep semen inside the pouch.
• Gently pull it out of the vagina or anus.
• Throw it away. Do not flush it down the toilet.
• Do not reuse the female condom.

And there’s a video of how to use it. Sadly, it’s animated. Hahaha

Male Condoms vs Female Condoms

• Availability: Male condoms are certainly available whereas availability of female condoms is quite low.

• Price: Female condoms are relatively expensive then male condoms.

• Effectiveness: Both the condoms provide effective protection against sexual transmitted diseases (STDs) and unwanted pregnancy

• Lubricants: With female condoms you can either use oil-based or water-based lubricants. If you are using male latex condoms then only water based lubricants can be used. But, if the condom is made up of polyurethane or lamb intestine then you can safely use any kind of lubricant.

• Usage: Male condoms are placed just before intercourse. Female condoms can be inserted 8 hours before sex.

• Comfort:  Some people complain that it is difficult to insert female condoms, particularly the inner rim of the condom. Some criticize them for the fact that they move during the act and is really confusing. On the contrary, male condom tightly fits around the penis and stays on its place while you have sex. If you are not using right size then it can slip or break. 

Types of Female Condom

FC Condom

They are also known as “reality condom” with lubricant. A loose fitted plastic tube which is worn inside the vagina wherein the open end remains outside the vagina while the closed end covers the cervix.

FC2 Condom

Made from synthetic nitrile which is somewhat cheaper that FC condom, where  the inner ring facilitated insertion while the outer ring helps condom to be on right place during the intercourse.

Path Women's Condom

Path condoms are made of polyurethane. Many women complain that the inner ring of the condom cause pain so it is been replaced by foam dots. Inner ring of the condom is replaced by foam dots for easy insertion. Besides this polyurethane is refined to get softer and thinner product, this provides more comfort to the person using it.

VA Wow condom

It is made up of latex material and has flexible V frame along with foldable inner sponge that holds the condom during sex. VA Wow condoms are lubricated and claim to have 97% customer satisfaction.