“If you want to be famous, just make a sex tape.” - Demi Lovato
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Kim Kardashian, Miley Cyrus, Paris Hilton and many more celebrities
are once involved in sex videos controversy. However, not only
Hollywood personalities and other entertainers engage in the
practice, but also sports figures and politicians even for normal
people. Being part of a modern couple that doesn't subscribe to
traditional sexual mores, you've even talk about it with your
partner. Making sex video may be a great idea, but it's a very
fragile art and not one to be leaped into lightly.
When
done right, videotaping yourselves (may) bring you closer together as
a couple. However, there are several pitfalls that must be head off
to guarantee that your video is a make rather than break moment for
your relationship.
I have quoted these theory of Resty S.Odon's blog about “Why do people make sex videos?” post stating that;
- To have a
souvenir of love and sex conquest, in a perverse sense of personal
achievement/fulfillment?
- To have something titillating to watch over and over again when bored?
- To imitate in
real life what they often watch online, porn, thinking carefully
staged porn portrayal to be real and thus normal?
- To have a handy
evidence in the future just in case the lover denies the
relationship/what happened?
- To have a means
to get back at the lover someday by blackmail in case she opts
out/drops him for another?
- Because having
a sex video is cool nowadays, not something sick; after all,
Hollywood stars do it all the time?
- Because sex and
women have become dirt-cheap?
- Because men
unknowingly hate women so much they would want to use them then
embarrass them then discard them like used condoms?
- To demonstrate one's sex prowess? To earn bragging rights or something to boast to friends over a few drinks?
- All of the above?
To
put my two cents here, I’d like to add a theory as an “EGO”
argument for why your man wants to make a sex video . I think this
has to be the most plausible reason for dude’s making sex tapes. I
mean, I get how making a video can be sexy. You get to act like porn
stars. Pretending you’re being filmed or watched adds a naughty,
exhibitionist rush to what’s basically a role playing game.
But
sometimes I can’t help but think that there are men out there who
thinks of sex video as a trophy. Who knows? They watch them when
their self-esteem is low? Or maybe the plan is to be able to watch
themselves in their prime, nailing hot tight bodies when they are
old.
In MedpageToday.com's website, Michele R. Berman MD the author of “What Were Theythinking? Why People Make Sex Tapes”, she stated these disorder:
Exhibitionistic
Disorder (DSM-5, proposed)
A. Over a period of at least six months, recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors involving the exposure of one's genitals to an unsuspecting stranger.
B. The person is distressed or impaired by these attractions, or has sought sexual stimulation from exposing the genitals to three or more unsuspecting strangers on separate occasions.
Voyeuristic Disorder (DSM-5, proposed)
A. Over a period of at least six months, recurrent and intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors involving the observing of an unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity.
B. The person is distressed or impaired by these attractions, or has sought sexual stimulation from observing three or more unsuspecting persons who are naked, disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity on separate occasions.
Both exhibitionism and voyeurism are paraphilic disorders (others include fetishism, sadomasochism, transvestism, frotteurism and pedophilia). Pathologic narcissism falls into an entirely different category of mental illnesses referred to as personality disorders which also include paranoid, antisocial, borderline and obsessive-compulsive disorders. Narcissistic personality disorder and bullying will be the subjects of a future story.
It may be tempting to let out your inner exhibitionist, think over this consequences:
- Your boss will
know what your O face looks like.
- Thanks to Google and YouTube – your next generation will be able to see that.
- When you're in bed with a new guy or babe, you'll always wonder if he's grabbing your boobs and thinking, "Hey! These looked a lot bigger on my phone!"
Get an App!!
Features:
- Shoot tapes or even pictures directly IntiMate app.
- It has “DELETE FOR EVER”, the sex tapes are only stored n their IntiMate system and cannot be copied or shared without your permission.
- It has “SHARE from STRANGERS” where you can screen all social media sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, Email, your phone or even geographical areas. Your sex tape remains “INVISIBLE” to anyone connected less than 3 degrees to you.
- It has also a “PROTECT” option wherein IntiMate will encrypt with password only to you, so whenever someone will rob your phone, SD card, or even your computer/laptop, they can never access it because password is always requested to view it.
- It has “Share Ownership” wherein your sex videos owned by you and your partner, if you deleter your partner deletes the tape, one can't access it anymore.
- (I find it funny) but, intiMate app has “CHALLENGES” option wherein you can compete with other couples or team and even vote for the best sex videos. (Wow!!)
Do it for Fun and not for Blackmail!
It should go without saying that making a sex video should only proceed with the permission of both partners.
With
a little knowledge and preparation, you can be sure that your first
sex video won't be your last.
