1. Expect his feelings for you to be obvious and shown early in the relationship. It’s
not that he isn’t mindful or is reckless with how new this is for you; it’s
just that he sees the unique qualities you possess that no one else has taken
the time to identify and is excited for what he knows he has found.
2. Expect him to want to communicate more than you are used to. Don’t let this scare you,
it is in his nature to truly care for someone other than himself; it is him
wanting to stay in tune with other priorities/obligations you have in your life
in hopes to stay connected even while you’re apart.
3. Expect his friends and family members to be overjoyed and even outwardly optimistic
about your relationship. Do your best to brush it off, they are not trying to
place pressure or rush you into things; they just see the spark you have
ignited in him and how happy he is when he talks about you.
4. His gentleman nature will allow him to take things as slow as you would like. Due
to his selflessness, he is okay with this, but know that internally he is restraining
himself to his limits; he wants nothing more than to display his true affection
for you.
5. Expect him to rush to the scene to try to fix things that may go wrong or be
challenging in your relationship. Do not take this as a sign that he is ignoring
space you may want; he will do his best to respect it, but in the end he feels
every second that passes is wasted time that he could be growing with you and
will most likely take action.
6. Expect him to be an open book; he will want you to ask him tough questions about
himself and in return will want to dig around to know you on a personal level
unlike anything you have experienced. He knows how tough this will be due to
your guarded nature and will be gentle but still determined. Know that while he
will stumble in his approach, it is genuine.
7. Expect him to give you affirmation in abundance. He has the ability to sympathize
being in your shoes more than you realize. In his past relationship he may have
often felt left in the dark about her feelings for him. He will enjoy considering
and adapting for you because he does not want you to feel the way he once did.
8. Expect him to give, be cheesy, and spoil you in ways that at times may seem a bit over
the top. He is not trying to win you over by acts or gifts, he simply has no
other way to express his heart without overwhelming you with the words he truly
wishes to tell you. He also does this to make up for the time prior to dating
him that you haven’t been treated the way you have deserved all along. A
glimpse of your smile is all he wishes in return.
9. Expect the way he treats you, things he says to you, and little gestures he routinely
does for you to never fade. He doesn’t feel as though he needs to uphold these
things in order for you to want him in return; he does them as a symbol that
his feelings for you do not waver over time and that his commitment to you is
not circumstantial.
10. Expect him to have a problem saying no to you. Do not grow frustrated that most of the time he is content with doing whatever you choose; He is comfortable when you are comfortable, he is happy when you are happy. No matter the activity he already gets what he wants, he is with
you.
11. He will be quick to forgive, and will often apologize even when he knows you have
wronged him. Do not label him as a pushover or mistake his grace for weakness;
his selfless nature allows him to place the burdens or struggles of your
relationship on his shoulders. He will gladly accept this role if it means you
two learn from the situation, ultimately helping to strengthen the bond you
share with one another.
12. Expect him to be spontaneous, risky, and unafraid to fail at gaining your trust. He
already expects you to pull back at some point; he has planned for it. Know
that his momentary discouragement will soon turn into a fight for your heart.
Do not fault him for this; he sees the greatness in you that no one else has.
He will do whatever it takes to show you because for him, it is a greater risk
for you to never see what he sees in yourself than for him to risk losing you
in the process.
13. Expect him to be hesitant to continually sacrifice for the relationship if he feels
you will struggle to ever reciprocate. He realizes it will take time to get to
that point but remember; he has most likely been down this road before. Due to
his nature, he probably sacrificed until he had nothing left to give. He wont
expect you to display it as frequent as he does, but in those few instances
that present themselves, he will hope more than anything you will want to step
up to the plate the way he does for you.
14. Expect him to make decisions with his heart versus his head, especially when it comes
to you. He is an individual that is filled with what comes from the heart; it
shines through his words, the way he interacts with you, and the compassion he
has for others. Sometimes it doesn’t allot for the smartest outcome and may
even push your buttons, but it is always done with the purest of intentions.
15. Expect for him to like you at your worst, more than at your best. He is unimpressed with you trying to “wow” him; you took care of that when he met you. He wants the real you that you don’t let other people see. He longs for you to come as you are, whether it be when you’re mad,
sad, being your dorky self, hair in a ponytail, wearing a sweatshirt. These are
the times he cherishes because he knows when it’s the real you, you are
becoming more comfortable with him.
16. Expect him to be everything your heart tells you he is. This will scare you initially;
you are not used to leading with your heart. Your mind will tell you he seems
too good to be true. It will be difficult for you to believe that he will
always be the way he is, that guys like him just don’t exist. You will be
waiting for him to mess up or try to convince yourself that one day you wont be
enough for him. Make him earn your heart, but once he does, let it guide you.
Then you will see with clarity that he loves being that incredible guy for you
and will continue to be; it’s just the way he is.
17. Although he doesn’t show it, he is scared too. You will be scared to get hurt; he has
already experienced the hurt you’re afraid of. He knows what it’s like to give
his best and it not be enough to make it work. Don’t let this discourage you.
He had to go through it; otherwise he would have never been ready for when you
came along. If he is who this list says he is then you already know how he
feels about you. You’ve given him an amazing hope that he can hardly contain. He
has been walking on eggshells trying to make sure he doesn’t push you too fast
but in reality he can’t wait for the future. As much as you like your normal
comfort zone, you’re not hoping for the normal relationship. At some point you
will want to take a leap of faith with that not so normal guy. When you do,
he’ll give you what you’ve been looking for, a not so normal love.
