They say experience is the greatest teacher and over
the years, I have learned many lessons from the many, many (particularly) men
I've dated, lessons I write about in this post. Another thing I've noticed is
that there are certain guys who simply spell trouble. I wish I had known to
watch out for these kinds of men earlier, it definitely would have saved me a
lot of pain in the ass. But instead, I'm passing this info along to you.
Here it is:
1. The Guy Who
Gets Too Intimate Too Soon:
When a guy is over eager it can mean a few things,
none of them good. The first is he wants to get you into bed, and he comes on
as being “overly” into you to speed up the process. He looks deep into your
eyes, he tells you he's never felt so strongly about a girl so fast, he's
extremely affectionate.
It's also likely that he isn't over his last girlfriend;
this is especially true of guys who start acting like a boyfriend after only a
few dates. His behaviour isn't so much a sign of his feelings for you as it is
an indicator that he simply misses being in a relationship.
If he isn't getting out of a relationship, then it's
very likely his strong affections are a sign of some kind of attachment issues
or self-esteem problems.
2. The Guy Who Says He Doesn't Want a Relationship
Right Off the Bat
It really just means he can't see himself being in a
relationship with YOU! (Argh! As if he’s gorgeous like George Clooney or Johnny
Depp to feel that fuckin’ way haha). Don't stick around and try to prove him
wrong - run as fast as you can!
3. The Guy Who Hates His Job (and/or doesn't know
what he wants to do with his life)
Studies have proved time and time again that while
women gain their sense of self-esteem and worth from their inter-personal
relationships, a man determines his value based on his job or capability to
have an impact on the world. When a man feels like he isn't contributing or
being productive, he will feel like a failure, and a man who feels like a
failure is an awfully tough creature to handle.
A guy who feels lost and at a loose end will be too
wrapped up in himself to be a loving, caring partner who can be in the swing of
things to your needs. This guy will just bring you down with this cynicism and
will resent you if you happen to have your act together.
4. The Tortured Artist (or hipster-ish dude)
This guy is the hardest to read and the most likely
to go from hot to cold with no warning and often no reason (and if there is a
reason it will most likely be the most ridiculous one you've ever heard, like:
you texted him back 15 minutes after he texted you, thus, indicating you are
way too interested in him).
This guy will create high-flying illusions of who you
are, will put you on a pedestal, will make you feel like the most “breathtaking”,
“eye-catching” being to ever walk to the face of the earth (because at first,
he may very well feel this way). Obviously no one can live up to such enormous
expectations and you will eventually show yourself to not be the goddess he
envisioned and he will die out from your life without a trace.
Show too much interest and he'll be scared away, show
not enough interest and he'll be too afraid to make any moves, show just the
right amount of interest and he'll get bored.
5. The Guy Who Has Never been Single
Be very cautious of the guy who goes from one
relationship to the next with little or no padding in between. The chances are
he has a lot of up in the air issues and painful feelings masked deep down.
There is no better place to hide from yourself than in a relationship.
Whatever issues he has will inevitably seep into the
relationship and you don't want to be forced into the role of his
therapist--I've played that part before and it can be extremely draining.
Luckily, after meeting these guys, I’m still alive! Well, they're just men anyway.
Hahaha
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