Top 10 Signs That He’s Just Not That Into You

Have you recently met a guy and have been pondering whether or not he’s into you? Telling if a guy is actually into you is much easier than most women think. Often time’s women let their own personal feelings get in the way of their thinking and later realize that they have been wasting time with a guy that doesn’t actually like them.

Regardless of age, or level of dating experience, reading men’s interest in you can be a struggle. Many men prefer to stay mysterious, go for privacy in all areas of their lives until they are ready to make a serious commitment. Lucky you if he will tell you his purposes up front. But for most men, grasping on to their subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues can be an easier way to get their message and avoid unnecessary heartbreak.

Relationships are really complicated, and understanding guys are such a pain in the ass. So, how to tell if a guy is not just really into you? Since most of my friends are guy, I have collected their views on what do they do if they don’t like the girl and these signs (according to my guy friends) will help you decide whether you’re on the right track or wasting your time with the wrong man.

During the first date…

1.    Eye contact

Whether you're on a first date or celebrating your first anniversary, if he won't make eye contact you may be seeing the beginning of the end.

2.    You always initiate the conversation

If you're always the one who ask questions or tell stories about anything, and you have to carry the conversational ball whenever the two of you are together, it may mean that his mind is on something (or someone) - other than you.

3.    Roving his eye

Men look at other women once in a while, BUT if he spends more time scanning the room than engaging with you, then, he’s just not into you.

4.    Bring-a-friend

If he suddenly starts bringing a friend along when you thought the two of you were getting together for a little one-on-one time, it's an unquestionable sign that you are no longer the focus of his attention.

Hint: If he often talks about other person you both know; flattering their assets and spotting how much you and that person have in common, he may be encouraging you to move on without wanting to hurt your feelings with an actual rejection.

After the first date…

5.    He is not asking you out!

When a he likes you, he can’t stop himself – he is eager to know you more and he’s going to want to take it further. If he’s not making a move, it’s not because he is “scared”.  The only thing he is scared of is how not attracted to you he is.

6.    Communication

"I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It's exhausting." – Mary (He’s Just Not Into you movie)

·         Phone

When he says, “Sorry, I’m busy” (didn’t have a moment in his busy day to call you) that’s a red flag! The real reason is that you are not on his mind. If a man leads you to expect he will call and then doesn’t follow through on such a little thing, he will never follow through on big things. Be aware he is okay with the idea he is disappointing you. I know everyone gets busy, but c’mon, the whole world also has caller ID these days!

If you are the one who initiates the call and he repeatedly fails to answer his phone when you call, your timing perhaps isn't the only thing that's bad.

·         Text message and E-mail

If it now takes him hours to reply to your text messages when he used to be lightning fast, it may be a sign that he's not just into you. Texting only takes a few seconds and can be done everywhere, even walking along the street, so what's the hold up?

By doing so, he avoids the “getting to know you” conversations. He really isn’t interested in moving things forward. He wants the down and dirty. So, the big question is, when can he see you (again)? If you have already had sex, his text or e-mail is to set up his next booty call. He usually navigates the conversation towards telling you how sexy you are and how he can’t wait to see you again. (Yeah right!)

7.    The Bubble

If the guy you're dating disappears for days or weeks at a time without explanation - just dropping out of sight and not responding to calls - it’s a clear sign!

But if you've been dating for a while…

8.    That “Something!”

If he invites you to hang out, coffee, watch a movie or something, “Something” means having sex (now you know). If you always go to the restaurant, because it is his favorite, he isn’t trying to please you. More than likely, he goes to different restaurants with different women. A guy that is really into you will plan a date. Even if the date doesn’t cost him a dime, he will plan.

9.    He’s late, always!

Anyone can get held up at work or hit heavy traffic now and then, but if he is always late for his dates with you, then you're not as high on his priority list as you should be.

10. In his place…

If you've had more than a few dates and you've never seen where he lives, ask yourself why. He may be trying to stay incognito, and out-of-the-way, in case things don't work out - or he may be hiding something. Hmmn…

Sometimes, there are those time we can do nothing but to admit that the guy we like doesn't like us. We can't spend our time speculating, "Why isn't he calling? Why doesn't he care?" Well, it's time to break your daydream and face the reality; he's just not that into you.

• He never really was into you , he just wanted to hook up.
• So, move on!!!
• Don't call him first or text him sometimes if you don't want to lose contact at all. If he doesn't like you in first month, there's no way for you to drive him there after that so.
• So, get the truth. Don't go and ask, "Do you like me, or will you ever do in this life?” Though you really want to know. Calculate the probability in his words with your true mind without any wishes or hopes. Ask something about love life and see how he answers. Just because he doesn't call you for 3 days, don't jump in the conclusion and rush into another guy.
• Love yourself before loving anyone else!