Keeping The Fiery Romance

Without a sense of security, a relationship will fall apart just as soon as it starts. Some says that if you do nothing wrong to your partner, then there is nothing for you to be afraid of. But, this might not always be true since couples may misinterpret the needs of security and assurance. 

Remember that you partner is also an individual who have a different views of what he or she expects from you and vice versa. So, it will be easier for you to know how to deal with it. Below are some useful steps to keep your partner wrapped around you.

1. Avoid Pre-judgments

Time will come when you do not understand your partner. Do not jump into a conclusion by judging him or her. Keep calm, this kind of situation is normal. Avoid calling each other names to prevent destroying the established security. Instead, support your partner by recognizing his behavior. Encourage him to let it out on you, assuring him that you will not hold it against him.

2. Keeping An Open Mind

Think that people have different expectations with regards to their sense of security due to their past relationships and experiences. You may discuss these with your partner with an open heart and understanding mind. Be truthful to yourself and to your partner.

3. Build An Open Communication

You and your partner need to spend time learning how to determine, label and understand your feelings. Learn to get to know each other as much as you can. Patiently listen to him and understand his feelings, but do not be afraid to voice out your sentiments as well.

4. Let Your Partner Speak

Provide your partner a chance to express how he or she feels at a given moment, whether it be happiness, anger, worry or sadness. It is very important for you to know that you cannot dictate nor stop your partner's feelings when yours is not in tune with his or her. This will make him comfortable to be himself, with no pretensions, whenever he is with you.

5. Supporting Each Other Emotionally

The couple's ability to offer emotional support is the most important factor in establishing trust and security. Learn how to read your partner's emotions at given situation. Next, give him the support he needs. In that way, positive changes in your relationship will happen and trust is build and kept.