Unlike a heterosexual relationship, a lesbian relationship provides more freedom than restrictions. However, eventually every lesbian relationship suffers from one common drawback: the fear of society in which one has to survive. All relationships are based on love, understanding and expectations. The same holds true for lesbian relationships. A difference of opinion occurs on grounds of whether or not the lesbian identity should be concealed from the society. Insecurity builds up if one of the partners opts to conceal the relationship from the society. Even if a lesbian couple overcomes the homophobia factor, there are other relevant issues regarding the social background, attitudes and most importantly the age difference between both the partners. In order to make any relationship a success, both the individuals need to provide enough space to each other. This might create a problem if one of the partners is dominating in nature. The other partner might feel rejected due to such demanding tendencies. It therefore becomes obvious that both the partners need to get fine tuned with each other's behavioral patterns.
There is a common saying that "no two fingers are alike". Unnecessary differences can lead to depression and unwanted conflicts. In case a conflict does arise, the best possible solution is to talk about it and resolve the issue there and then. To assume that time would become a healing factor can lead to inevitable break up of the relationship. One of the partners might not have an understanding nature. In such a case, it becomes the sole responsibility of the other partner to revive the existing relationship and give a new meaning to it. One must not forget that there are numerous social elements that make a lesbian relationship a hard ship to sail. If both the partners feel that there is a need of involving a mutually trusted friend to resolve the conflict, they should go ahead and do so. Usually a third person can judge better which one of the two partners is more demanding and dominating.
There is a common saying that "no two fingers are alike". Unnecessary differences can lead to depression and unwanted conflicts. In case a conflict does arise, the best possible solution is to talk about it and resolve the issue there and then. To assume that time would become a healing factor can lead to inevitable break up of the relationship. One of the partners might not have an understanding nature. In such a case, it becomes the sole responsibility of the other partner to revive the existing relationship and give a new meaning to it. One must not forget that there are numerous social elements that make a lesbian relationship a hard ship to sail. If both the partners feel that there is a need of involving a mutually trusted friend to resolve the conflict, they should go ahead and do so. Usually a third person can judge better which one of the two partners is more demanding and dominating.
At the end, what needs to be remembered is that it's always better to forgive and forget the mistakes of the one you love. Yes, this is tough, but good things don't come that easily. The need to avoid a break up increases manifolds if the relationship is known in the society. It becomes the moral responsibility of both the partners to become strength of each other, rather than becoming a weakness. The amount of love, caring and understanding is required more in case of a lesbian relationship as compared to any heterosexual relationship.
Coming out - So you're gay or lesbian. Okay, that's the easy part.
Perhaps you have 'come out' to your family and friends and are openly living a gay lifestyle, perhaps you have only shared this revelation about yourself with a few closest to you, or perhaps you are still working up the courage required to share this part of yourself with others at all. Whatever your situation may be, your next step is to find that special someone with whom you can spend your time - or even spend the rest of your life.
That's the hard part!
Perhaps you have 'come out' to your family and friends and are openly living a gay lifestyle, perhaps you have only shared this revelation about yourself with a few closest to you, or perhaps you are still working up the courage required to share this part of yourself with others at all. Whatever your situation may be, your next step is to find that special someone with whom you can spend your time - or even spend the rest of your life.
That's the hard part!
But it doesn't have to be!
Wouldn't it be nice to be able to meet someone of the same sex, date them, fall in love with them, get married to them, and live happily ever after? Of course it would!
Every person is unique and so is every relationship, but relationships do have common threads, common issues, and common problems. Whether a relationship is heterosexual or homosexual, there will be some common concerns, issues, problems, and situations that arise.
However, homosexual relationships have some very specific and unique difficulties.
Whatever place you are in your life - whether you are just venturing out into dating, have already met someone to spend your time with, or you are on the mend from a relationship and ready to venture out again - there will be something in this book to which you can relate. You will be provided information and resources, as well some shared personal stories about dating experiences, same-sex relationships, and you will then be walked through the entire process of finding your perfect same-sex mate…from the first meeting all the way to 'happy ever-after.'
Whatever place you are in your life - whether you are just venturing out into dating, have already met someone to spend your time with, or you are on the mend from a relationship and ready to venture out again - there will be something in this book to which you can relate. You will be provided information and resources, as well some shared personal stories about dating experiences, same-sex relationships, and you will then be walked through the entire process of finding your perfect same-sex mate…from the first meeting all the way to 'happy ever-after.'
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