Why Do People Fall Out Of Love?

I have been in love many times and it is a great feeling and experience for me. But time came when either my partner or I fell out of love. Let’s just say I do not feel the same anymore. I saw a quotation that says “I wanted everything to stay the same ... but feelings fade and people change.”

That is indeed true but why do people fall out of love? How will they say to their partner that it’s not them who they want to be with anymore? People fall in love for reasons and many relationships failed because they are all the wrong reasons for being in love. Some people get into relationships because they feel empty or worthless when they are single. Some people get hooked because their friends are in relationships and they feel aloof in the game of love. Some might be constantly interrogated by family as to when they are settling down. So there is pressure, either direct or indirect, on both men and women to fall in love.

Distance can be one of the factors, most long distance relationships that I knew never last (well that depends on the people involved, right?) and at the end they will just break up and think that it will not work out. As for my experience, I have been into that kind of relationship; to be honest I cannot bear the distance.

Lack of communication wherein one is unwilling to discuss relationship problems is another reason. Don’t hesitate to talk with your partner regularly. People fall out of love because they don’t talk through their relationship bothers with each other. If you’re in a new relationship, fix things up early on to keep the love alive over the long haul. It is much easier to address issues earlier in a relationship than later, just as it is much harder to mold cement once it has dried and hardened. I had a partner whom never talks when we have some petty fights and God!, the silence is killing me, (because I’m very argumental person).

The key is have an open communication. If you don’t like her expressions, say it to her face, if you cannot bear her anymore then tell her. Couples fall out of love when they can’t find a way to make the partnership healthy for both people involved. Creativity and open minds are the stuff of lasting love; silence and blaming, though? Not so much.   

People change. Maybe they get bored with each other. Over time, people can change or become who they really are. Someone who loved his longtime girlfriend may suddenly realize he always wanted to be with anymore, people evolve; circumstances change — and sometimes, relationships can’t be sustained as a result. The kind of change that leads to love lost is always about a buried longing to be someone that’s suppressed inside. Have time to know your partner to avoid this lost-love syndrome, in other words, don’t neglect someone you care about.

No matter what the reason, all problems can be fixed if couples are willing to commit to each other and work towards building and strengthening their bonds. Men and women should not think their partners are mind readers. You have to talk to each other. Relationships flourish only where there is trust, understanding, acceptance, and forgiveness. It is important to be truthful to yourself to be truthful to your partner. Love heals every scar.