“If
you want to be famous, just make a sex tape.” - Demi Lovato
Like
Kim Kardashian, Miley Cyrus, Paris Hilton and many more celebrities
are once involved in sex videos controversy. However, not only
Hollywood personalities and other entertainers engage in the
practice, but also sports figures and politicians even for normal
people. Being part of a modern couple that doesn't subscribe to
traditional sexual mores, you've even talk about it with your
partner. Making sex video may be a great idea, but it's a very
fragile art and not one to be leaped into lightly.
When
done right, videotaping yourselves (may) bring you closer together as
a couple. However, there are several pitfalls that must be head off
to guarantee that your video is a make rather than break moment for
your relationship.
I have quoted these
theory of Resty S.Odon's blog about “Why
do people make sex videos?” post stating that;
- To have a
souvenir of love and sex conquest, in a perverse sense of personal
achievement/fulfillment?
- To have
something titillating to watch over and over again when bored?
- To imitate in
real life what they often watch online, porn, thinking carefully
staged porn portrayal to be real and thus normal?
- To have a handy
evidence in the future just in case the lover denies the
relationship/what happened?
- To have a means
to get back at the lover someday by blackmail in case she opts
out/drops him for another?
- Because having
a sex video is cool nowadays, not something sick; after all,
Hollywood stars do it all the time?
- Because sex and
women have become dirt-cheap?
- Because men
unknowingly hate women so much they would want to use them then
embarrass them then discard them like used condoms?
- To demonstrate
one's sex prowess? To earn bragging rights or something to boast to
friends over a few drinks?
- All of the
above?
To
put my two cents here, I’d like to add a theory as an “EGO”
argument for why your man wants to make a sex video . I think this
has to be the most plausible reason for dude’s making sex tapes. I
mean, I get how making a video can be sexy. You get to act like porn
stars. Pretending you’re being filmed or watched adds a naughty,
exhibitionist rush to what’s basically a role playing game.
But
sometimes I can’t help but think that there are men out there who
thinks of sex video as a trophy. Who knows? They watch them when
their self-esteem is low? Or maybe the plan is to be able to watch
themselves in their prime, nailing hot tight bodies when they are
old.
In MedpageToday.com's
website, Michele R. Berman MD the author of “What Were Theythinking? Why People Make Sex Tapes”, she stated these
disorder:
Exhibitionistic
Disorder (DSM-5, proposed)
A.
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent and intense
sexual fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors involving the
exposure of one's genitals to an unsuspecting stranger.
B.
The person is distressed or impaired by these attractions, or has
sought sexual stimulation from exposing the genitals to three or more
unsuspecting strangers on separate occasions.
Voyeuristic
Disorder (DSM-5, proposed)
A.
Over a period of at least six months, recurrent and intense sexually
arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or sexual behaviors involving the
observing of an unsuspecting person who is naked, in the process of
disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity.
B.
The person is distressed or impaired by these attractions, or has
sought sexual stimulation from observing three or more unsuspecting
persons who are naked, disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity on
separate occasions.
Both
exhibitionism and voyeurism are paraphilic disorders (others
include fetishism, sadomasochism, transvestism, frotteurism
and pedophilia).
Pathologic narcissism falls into an entirely different
category of mental illnesses referred to as personality disorders
which also include paranoid, antisocial, borderline and
obsessive-compulsive disorders. Narcissistic personality disorder and
bullying will be the subjects of a future story.
When making sex
videos...
It
may be tempting to let out your inner exhibitionist, think over this
consequences:
- Your boss will
know what your O face looks like.
- Thanks to
Google and YouTube – your next generation will be able to see
that.
- When you're in
bed with a new guy or babe, you'll always wonder if he's grabbing
your boobs and thinking, "Hey! These looked a lot bigger on my
phone!"
Get an App!!
Yes, an app! There's
an app for making sex video where you can create, share, compete and
of course protect your sex videos/sex tapes using IntiMate
app;
Features:
Shoot
tapes or even pictures directly IntiMate app.
It
has “DELETE FOR EVER”, the sex tapes are only stored n their
IntiMate system and cannot be copied or shared without your
permission.
It
has “SHARE from STRANGERS” where you can screen all social media
sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, Email, your phone or even
geographical areas. Your sex tape remains “INVISIBLE” to anyone
connected less than 3 degrees to you.
It
has also a “PROTECT” option wherein IntiMate will encrypt with
password only to you, so whenever someone will rob your phone, SD
card, or even your computer/laptop, they can never access it because
password is always requested to view it.
It
has “Share Ownership” wherein your sex videos owned by you and
your partner, if you deleter your partner deletes the tape, one
can't access it anymore.
(I
find it funny) but, intiMate app has “CHALLENGES” option wherein
you can compete with other couples or team and even vote for the
best sex videos. (Wow!!)
Do it for Fun and
not for Blackmail!
It should go without
saying that making a sex video should only proceed with the
permission of both partners.
With
a little knowledge and preparation, you can be sure that your first
sex video won't be your last.
