Showing posts with label Sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sex. Show all posts

Feb 24, 2014

The Economics of Sex




Why do men want sex and women want marriage? This animation perfectly explains the 'economy of sex':

This video broaches the economy of sex in a clinical and an academic manner, attempting objectivity but only partially achieving it. There are many layers of assumptions worked into this fairly perceptive social analysis.

This theory assumes that marriage is the endgame relationship status, paints sexuality as a binary, and ignores the fact that women themselves are often delaying marriage in order to pursue careers.

Although this analysis is rooted in social psychology and drawn from solid economic framework, these sorts of paradigms focus on broad underlying generalities.

This is a basic lens, and completely ignores the many and complicated human aspects of interpersonal relationships.

A thought provoking framing, but very limited in its direct application.

This video was produced by the Austin Institute for the Study of Family and Culture.


Jun 5, 2013

Oral Sex: A Down There Disease Risks




After Michael Douglas’ interview of his throat cancer revelation - diagnosed with cancer 3 years ago, was quoted as telling The Guardian newspaper his strain of cancer had been caused by HPV (human papillomavirus). Although the biggest risk factors for throat cancer are smoking and drinking heavily.

However, he was also right that HPV - which can be transmitted by oral sex - also poses a risk. Since oral sex is a pleasure and a healthy part of relationship. But there are some things that many people don't know about oral sex. Here are the facts that might surprise you.

What is Oral Sex?

Oral sex involves giving or receiving oral stimulation (i.e., sucking or licking) to the penis, the vagina, and/or the anus.

  • Fellatio - is the technical term used to describe oral contact with the penis.
  • Cunnilingus - is the technical term which describes oral contact with the vagina.
  • Anilingus - (also known as “rimming”) refers to oral-anal contact.

Studies indicate that oral sex is commonly practiced by sexually active male-female and same-gender couples of various ages, including adolescents. Although there are only limited national data about how often adolescents engage in oral sex, some data suggest that many adolescents who engage in oral sex do not consider it to be “sex;” therefore they may use oral sex as an option to experience sex while still, in their minds, remaining abstinent.

Moreover, many consider oral sex to be a safe or no-risk sexual practice. In a national survey of teens conducted for The Kaiser Family Foundation, 26% of sexually active 15- to 17-year-olds surveyed responded that one “cannot become infected with HIV by having unprotected oral sex,” and an additional 15% didn’t know whether or not one could become infected in that manner.

Does oral sex really linked to throat cancer?

It's not oral sex, per se, that causes cancer, but the human papillomavirus (HPV), which can be passed from person to person during sex, including oral sex.

What are the risks of HPV?

  • Human papillomavirus is an infection that causes genital warts. In England, they are the second most common type of sexually transmitted infection after chlamydia.

  • In most cases, genital HPV infections cause no real symptoms and clear up by themselves without causing any problems.

  • HPV comes in more than 100 different strains and some can trigger cancers.

  • Most cases of genital warts are caused by 'low-risk' HPV types 6 and 11, meaning they do not pose a significant cancer risk.

  • High-risk types include HPV 16 and 18 which can cause cancer of the cervix in women.

  • High-risk HPV infections are also associated with cancer of the penis, vulva, vagina, anus, mouth and throat.

  • Other types of HPV can cause visible warts and verrucas, such as those commonly seen on the hands and feet.

  • Although HPV is implicated in some throat cancers, smoking and alcohol are far more common risk factors.

How is HPV spread?

  • Genital warts can be spread during vaginal or anal sex, and by sharing sex toys. However, you do not need to have penetrative sex to pass the infection on because HPV is spread by skin-to-skin contact.

  • HPV infection can also be spread through oral sex.

  • It can take up to one year for warts to develop after infection with HPV. Therefore, if you are in a relationship and you get genital warts, it does not necessarily mean your partner has been having sex with other people.

  • HPV is most likely to be transmitted to others when warts are present, but it is still possible to pass the virus on before the warts have developed and after they have disappeared.

  • Condoms do not provide complete protection because it is possible for the skin around the genital area (not covered by the condom) to become infected.


How do you know that you have genital warts?

Some infected people will show no signs, while others will have visible warts.

In women, warts occur on the inside and outside of the vagina, on the cervix (neck of the womb) or around the anus. In men, genital warts may occur on the tip or shaft of the penis, or around the anus.

Other down there diseases

Several sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), including HIV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, and viral hepatitis can be passed on through oral sex.

"Oral sex is not safe sex," says Terri Warren, RN, owner of Westover Heights Clinic in Portland, Ore., a private clinic specializing in STDs. "It's safer sex, but it's definitely not safe sex.”

The risks depend on a lot of different things, including how many sexual partners you have, your gender, and what particular oral sex acts you engage in.

Using barrier protection can reduce the risk of getting any disease. A barrier can be a condom covering the penis, or a plastic or latex "dental dam" placed over the vulva or anus. Instead of a prepackaged dental dam, a condom cut open to make a sheet is also an acceptable barrier.

Remember you can only pick up human papillomavirus (HPV) from someone who has one. However, it is not always easy to know whether you have an HPV or not. Most cases are either symptomless or have symptoms which are mild and go unnoticed. Often the only way of finding out whether we have HPV is by having a checkup and the relevant tests.

Sep 2, 2012

First Date: To Kiss Or Not To Kiss?



 First Date: To Kiss Or Not To Kiss?

If you are presently dating someone and new at this, be aware that first dates can be an exciting experience with many stroppy moments. If that first date is magical, then the big question will pop up at the end of the date. The question is to kiss or not to kiss? What do you think?

So, is it a great idea to kiss on the first date? Not the usual goodbye/goodnight smooch on the cheek, but a long passionate one. Well, the first date kiss, if it happens between two people who are really into each other and think that they may have found someone special can be a very thrilling experience and one that should not be taken too lightly.

May 27, 2012

Friends With Benefits: The Casual Relationship



Some think it is an ideal relationship: no stress, no strings attached and those steamy one night stand. You can even talk about your jerky office mate after that steamy sex, or debate about the movie you saw last night. However, relationship that involves sex can create a sense of awkwardness.
Also, it tends to have little romantic desire, but the only complication is that at the end the other person might fall to the other. Friends with benefits might ruin everything.

Sex is pretty complicated. It can be for pro-creation within a family structure or it can also be used as recreation, it may be associated with mutual desire for satisfaction. Some think sex is definitely better with someone you love and are married to. it does not necessarily have to be labeled as immoral sin, evil or dirty. It is an act between two consenting adult who may or may not married or even in love with each other.

Oct 12, 2010

Man Hater Vs. Feminist (Part 1)





Why is it that man-haters are inclined to be considered of as feminists? They are two solely distinct entities. Let’s first tackle what man hater is.

If you tell people that you are a feminist, and most will assume that you are a man hater.

First of all, let us define man hater. It is simply hatred for boys, or misandry. The counterpart is called misogyny, the hatred of women or girls.

You seduce them and then dump them. And you often have a cruel smile of satisfaction as you stick the knife in with such classic parting lines as: "And by the way, I was sleeping with your best friend at the same time . . . and he was much better than you".


Jun 29, 2010

NewlyWeds Quickie Guide




"The excitement of getting married gives couples a hit of dopamine -- a feel-good brain chemical that increases sex drive. For a few months after marriage, things may stay hot, and while you still love each other and feel passionate about each other, the dopamine does settle down. You're back to real life. Your normal sex-drive set point kicks back in. Your expectations about married sex take over. It's the perfect time to do the delicious work of deepening your sexual bond." says marriage and sex therapist Pat Love, Ed.D.

"The challenge for couples is balancing a sense of intimacy and safety and security with a sense of unpredictability and creativity and eroticism," says Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., a psychology professor at American University in Washington, D.C. "When sexual intimacy is strong, making love plays a healthy 15 to 20 percent role in energizing your marriage. The paradox is that when sex is problematic, it plays an inordinately powerful, negative role in new marriages."

May 26, 2010

When Men And Sex Are The Equal



Sex researchers are peculiar beasts. Armed with their tape measures, clipboards, surveys, and hidden cameras, they seek to provide a peephole from which to scrutinize that most private of spheres, human sexuality with lust. What's most surprising is that we let them in—we're more than happy to unzip our pants and bare our private lives. Why do we do it?

Maybe it's precisely because sex is so private that we're compelled to share. We know that without sex researchers to disseminate data about our sex lives, we'd be forced to rely upon furtive glances in the men's room, never sure of what to add or subtract to account for the angle; upon locker room stories, never sure how many grains of skeptical salt to apply; upon porn that only leaves us feeling depressed about ourselves.