Virginity Are Losers?

One day at the mall, i accidentally passed by on a famous outlet (clothing).. i invite myself in to check for their new stuffs. i noticed a simple black tee and its colorful print, it says "VIRGINITY IS FOR LOSER". i giggled to the thought of it.

"hahaha, at least I'm not one.." i muttered to myself.

but as i walk out to the store, i asked myself this, "is it really true that virginity is for loser?"

that those people who choose not to surrender their virginity are losers?

i think million times... NO!!!

virgin people are not loser, either the none virgins. women specifically are underestimated and misunderstood by many when it comes to that issue.. VIRGINITY.

i, myself, would admit that I'm not anymore. I'm not a self-proclaim bitch but I'm just being true to myself that I'm not, not that I'm proud of it.instead, i can answer straightforwardly if someone will ask me.

i gave it to the man i thought ill be with forever, WITH NO REGRETS, NO IFS, NO BUTS..

i was ready then, i gave it because i love him that much, before. but it doesn't make me less of a woman. giving it t someone is a very difficult decision to make, at least for some few who value themselves. i don't have any objections on people who are virgins, none virgins and to some who are trying to hide the truth about it.

for me, SEX IS NOT A SIN.

it is one way of expressing your love, emotions and affection to the one you love you do it with love.. passionately. the intense feeling of inexplicable fiery emotion in your first sex experience is one of the most fascinating feeling in some one's life. but it doesn't mean if you're committed, you need or have to have sex with that person, that's when the CHOICES comes in.


we should respect the choices of everyone, and DO NOT JUDGE them with the choices they make. there is no certain rule in giving it but its up to you on how to value yourself whether you are or you are not a virgin anymore.

the way you handle yourself reflects on how you respect people around you. whether you choose to stay virgin or you wan to gave it already...

just remember, that you have to RESPECT YOURSELF, treat YOURSELF as a PRECIOUS GEM..

single is a gift

Alone… that was me almost a year ago. Sullen, empty. I wore many masks to hide, to pretend and to scape to the sadness that never seems to leave me. It embraces me at night, it’s killing me slowly. It’s always there and soon it became my best buddy. I grew fond of it, until it bestowed me my wish, to be numb..

Pain become my companion as I took my journey. Pain taught me to forget the pain and hurt I’ve been through, I hated love, commitments, relationships, it disgusts me seeing couples cuddling, kissing, hugging and showing affection and passion to each other.

Pain grew inside me, it taught me all the not-so-good reactions I’ve been but it also made me realize and gave me the lesson and realization in life…

that I should love myself and accept whatever and whoever I am right now. I suddenly thought that being single, alone is not a curse.

But it is a "gift",

"A gift that not everybody learn to love, like and appreciate..."

And that time,

"Yes I was alone, single but I’m happy." I’m contented, I did have enough time to value myself, love myself and be myself. There was a time that still haunts me, dragging me to the dungeon of sadness again but I can fight it.

My weapon..

Prayers, family and friends...

When memories flash back, I just caught myself smiling, realizing that I was crazily, madly and deeply in love before with the person I thought the one I’ll be growing old with.

I was completely insane in love. I did crazy and silly stuffs for love but I suddenly realized that I should learn to accept and love myself first before loving and giving my whole self to someone and committing with that person forever.

art of letting go

Sometimes, we ask ourselves why love leaves us when we have given so much of ourselves that there is little left for us to start all over again. A lot of us built dreams with the people we hope would be with us forever, only to realize that there is nothing permanent in this cruel world. "Love come and go."

People share their lives with us and then leave us. "Life is a constant cycle of finding and losing, making and breaking, dying and living again."

When our heart dies, it stops beating. But love is different, love doesn’t end permanently even when we feel that love has died, it would only go into a deep slumber and could one day be awakened by someone who could unlock our hearts.

When love hurts us, we shut the door and live into a dark and lonely world where we think would be safe. You should not stay in that world forever.

One day you have to open a window to see if the storm was over. otherwise, you wouldn’t know when to live your life again.

Let us remember that in life, there are no mistakes only lessons learned. in loving, there should be no regrets only appreciation of the joy we have.

There is a time when life stops and love ends. Our life should move on even when everything around us make us feel that it shouldn’t. For there can be only be happiness when we stop living in the past.

"Love will find its way back when we give others the chance to share a little of themselves with us."

We might be miserable right now, but there would always be someone out there who could ease the pain and bitterness in us that had kept us from loving "again."

The Game Called Love

About love...

Love is one of the questions we have always attempted to answer in more than one way. This only shows that it is quite impossible to grasp and comprehend the totality of it’s being. But we try, don’t we? We try and find out by getting hurt… we try and find out… when you enter into a relationship, when you commit yourself you must always bear in mind that you are sharing a part of yourself to a stranger who mere chance or destine fate, you take the risk.

She is different that is why you should not expect her to be like you, to posses the same thoughts; to win the same emotions. You should love her because she is she, not because she is you. This being so, you must learn to accept her and her totality as a person. Growth is brought about by your indifference, which in one way or another cultivate the relationship. It is also important to remember that trust is a vital element in the relationship…

Unconditional trust.. NO IFS… NO BUTS.. when you love, honestly love, then you must be willing to sacrifice that there are times when hurt go deep, when the pain is almost unbearable, when you are about to give up. But loving is not giving up easily. It is being there when all have none, when there is little strength left; when it is too much to stand. Loving is letting be. There is no difference between

AS A MATTER OF FACT way or a “ROMANTIC” Way.

If she says she is honest with you, then you don’t kill yourself by saying that she
is not. How do you know? Her past experience is not enough to doubt her. If she can offer you “AS A MATTER OF FACT” way, then accept and if you love the “ROMANTIC” way in return do so. Please do not measure the exchange. Just be honest with each other and have an open channel of communication constantly where there is free sharing of ideas..

NO IFS…. NO BUTS….. just LOVE, nobody promised you a rose garden but you are a PROMISE. Get the best out of life. Love and get hurt.. get hurt and learn and love again…. It is a cycle, experience the cycle and feel like you’re in a circle. I hope I made a sense of whatever thought I have shared with you.

You see, I have been in love too….